A few weeks ago, I had the opportunity to interview Sofie Hagen about her new show Dead Baby Frog that she was just about to tour. On Wednesday 18th October, the show came to Leeds, and she played a sold out show at Headrow House. As with all dates on her tour, her homemade gender neutral toilet signs were up on the bathrooms near the event space, reminding people to be respectful and kind to each other.
She started the show by telling us how long it was going to be, reassuring the crowd that if they needed to get up and leave for any reason that would be fine, that they wouldn’t be picked on and the show would not stop. This is part of Sofie’s aim to make her shows an anxiety safe space; she gave an emotional abuse trigger warning too which was very helpful. As someone who has suffered emotional abuse in the past, I was a bit apprehensive about going to see a show with this as the main topic. Sofie handled this topic with grace, sensitivity and obviously humour. I left the show feeling empowered by her experiences and feeling in control of the feelings about my past – not something I anticipated when attending a comedy show!
The show is mainly focused around growing up in ‘Shametown’ with her grandmother (or mom-mom as they say in her native Danish) and her narcissistic grandfather (not her mom-dad who we discover was a Nazi and was left my her mom-mom years earlier). Sofie describes the cruel and sadistic behaviour of her grandfather, the amazing and immediate response from her mum, who moved the family away once she learnt about what was happening, and her journey through therapy to understand the behaviour, the impact it has had and the day she bought a two-way ticket to Shametown to confront her oppressor.
I really can’t recommend this show enough. Despite the heavy topic the comedy is plentiful and it is truly like having a conversation with your hilarious friend that is completely on your page and right there behind you ready to fight your corner!
Image: Sofie Hagen on Facebook